I asked a couple of gentlemen why they thought the secret weapon [described here] for getting one's male mate to understand her worked so well.
"It's because it feels less like your being nagged at," one of them answered right away, "to have the focus be on my being annoyed rather than on your being annoyed."
Men really don't like nagging. Look at the ancient words in chapter 21 of the book of Proverbs. The writer is going on about this and that, and all of the sudden, in verse 9, he pops out with, "It is better to live in the corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife." Then he gets back to non-wife issues, and again, like, "did I mention men really hate nagging?" in the 19th verse he reiterates, " It is better to live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman."